Seasons Change, & So Will You…
Sometimes it feels like nothing is moving and you are just stuck in the same place. For years I was putting in the work, but nothing in my life was shifting… or so I thought.
Looking back, I don’t regret my past life. None of it was wasted. Shoot - without it, I wouldn’t be here, typing this out for you to read.
The career I had for thirteen years, shaped my managerial foundation and brought many wonderful people and opportunities into my life. The guy I was engaged to taught me so much about love - the boundaries and values I desire in a relationship. The small town I lived in where I felt so secluded gave me peace, but also curiosity. The self-doubt, trying to fit in, and hiding behind a fake smile - it just was not me. I stripped all of that like an old outfit and changed into something new, and slowly becoming someone more fitting.
I landed my dream job. Still single, but embracing it and building the life I envision. I don’t need a man to have land and horses, but don’t forget, my biggest life desire is to be a wife, I can’t wait to see what he looks like and if he can keep up with my sass (wink). I travel. I say ‘Yes’ more to things I would normally say ‘No’ to. I dress for myself and have fun doing it. Trust me, a good outfit and fresh spray tan can make any woman happy.
For a long time, I carried armor and built walls around my heart to protect myself from rejection, disappointment, and being abandoned again. I thought hiding behind my strength and pushing away anyone that got close, I would be safe. But in doing so, I kept out friendships, love, opportunities, adventure, growth, and of course…healing. I have learned that the true strength isn’t in the armor we wear - it is taking it off. It is allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open. It is about trusting that God is surrounding you and protecting you, not your walls.
Just like seasons change as the year goes on, your season of waiting will eventually change into growth, clarity, and fulfillment. The challenge is embracing the pause and sitting in the silence. The years past, I was impatient, restless, comparing, and holding myself to outrageously high standards. I can now say that I am learning patience, becoming resilient, and letting my walls come down which allows me to open up to who I am becoming and shed the version of who I was.
Shifts I made in my Waiting Season -
Importance of boundaries - This is about protecting my peace and energy
Communication isn’t about just the answer, it is about listening to understand
Love Languages and how loving your partner in their love language rather than yours can drastically change how they love you back. It might push you out of your comfort zone, but I promise, it is worth it. That full love tank is magical
Build the life you want now, even if you are single. You are a strong, independent person and when God presents you with your other half, it is only going to become stronger and even more beautiful
‘When two people love, serve, and grow together in Christ, their relationship doesn’t just survive - it bears fruit in joy, purpose, and shared life’. (Psalm 128:3)
Ask yourself:
What season of life am I in right now and what is it teaching me about myself?
What small steps can I take today to grow into the person God is shaping me to be?
What lessons or experiences am I grateful for, even if they no longer serve me?
If you are in a season that feels long, uncomfortable, or uncertain - have faith that change is happening and everything is about to shift. Focus forward, not back.
Grace in the Gap
