Steady in Your Singleness
Move with Intent & Live with Purpose
Somewhere along the way in my young life, I embodied the thought that love is the destination. I don’t want to blame it on the fairytales told in movies and books, but they are really convincing. I believed that when I found ‘the one’, everything would finally piece together and make sense. A spouse, a life partner, a PIC (partner in crime) would complete me and make my life whole.
That was never the truth. Again… just a fairytale. A made up story with a high expectation.
Now, I do believe every woman is a man’s missing rib. So yes, a little contradictory, but hear me out.
You are whole with or without someone by your side. You have a life to live and if you don’t live it because you are in a season of waiting, you are going to miss out on experiences, connections, and finding little parts of you that you have never known.
We rush into relationships because we think we are missing something.
We settled because we are tired of waiting.
We lose ourselves because we are trying to force and build a foundation with someone, against God’s will, that will only end up cracking.
Singleness is not a gap - it is a purpose
Singleness is a season where God is:
Building your identity
Strengthening your standards
Setting healthy boundaries
Healing what you have tried hiding and burying
Teaching you how to stand on your own
He is showing you that alone - you know the depth of your soul, the strength of your mind, and the capacity of your heart. Being single will teach you lessons that no relationship ever could.
No distractions
No one to fill the silence
No one to help you avoid your mind or reality
Just you and God
At first, its uncomfortable, especially if you have been in a long-term relationship or always had someone close by.
You start to notice the quiet more. Overthinking kicks into overdrive. Habits are shown. Parts of you that you have been avoiding are coming to light.
Don’t run - lean into it
Enjoy your own company. Dance with your dog in the kitchen. Pick up a book to read. Create routines that make you feel successful throughout your day. Go with the flow instead of always being ‘ON’. This will allow you to protect your energy. Recharge your internal battery. Realign with life - your life. And slowly, you start to feel steady. Grounded.
The quiet allows your to hear God.
Make your space a place of peace
Make your routines intentional
Make your time meaningful. 4am is beautiful - just to let you know
One day, someone is going to step into your life and they might disrupt your newly found routines, but it won’t feel chaotic. It will feel peaceful. That is God saying, ‘you did the work to build the foundation, so here is your home.’
‘And in Christ you have been brought to fullness.’ (Colossians 2:10)
Grace in the Gap
